One of the most important things in relationships even today, is trust. Without having trust in a relationship, there is no doubt that failure of the relationship is soon to follow. If you have trust in a relationship it is going to give you peace and calmness that will lead to security and a feeling of satisfaction. However, if the trust is broken, what can you do to rebuild that trust? Below are a few tips on how to try and mend a relationship where trust has been broken.
The first thing you need to realize that that by simply telling the person to trust you again, especially if you have broken their heart is not going to be enough for them to trust you again. In order for your words to have any meaning, you need to make sure that your actions are going to work in harmony with those words. This more than likely means you are going to have to give up a little more than before. If the person and the relationship truly means something to you then you will be more than happy to sacrifice.
You must tell the truth at all times. You may discover that you have fallen into a pattern of lying just to cover up all of your wrong doing. If you continue down this kind of a road it's not going to do you or the relationship any good. When you are asked something you need to be as truthful in your answer as you possibly can be. Even if the truth doesn't meet with their approval, it's the only way in which you are going to be able to rebuild the trust back up in your relationship.
Make sure to let go of all your secrecy. It's simply not worth continuing to keep secrets from your spouse or partner and it simply takes a lot of effort to keep them from coming to the surface anyway. Just remember that a secret will kill trust, and when the trust dies so will your relationship, plain and simple.
You need to make a safety net. You need to create an environment for your spouse or partner that will make them feel safe when they are around you. Make every effort to let them know who you really are so they feel as if they know your true character. This will make them feel safe because they know how you will react to different things and different feelings. When they know this beforehand, your different behaviors then they will understand to back off for awhile.
You should also ask questions. When you try to rebuild trust and you are not sure how to handle a situation you should ask them how they feel. One of the worst things that you can do is to just go ahead and assume you know how someone feels and just handle the matter yourself. You should listen carefully to the things they have to say and try and agree on an outcome.